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EDIT: Since I have gotten two emails this morning offering financial assistence, I now need to say this. I am NOT a pregnant woman. In fact, I'm a guy. I'm assuming at least one of the two who responded was a botter hoping to get my personal info but I want to make this clear.

...Right.

I want to take a moment to comment on those who would rather judge and criticize pregnant women who find themselves turning to CraigsList for help: The fact that they bothered to post an ad on CraigsList at all should be more than enough to tell you how desparate they are. It's not your place to tell them "If you truly are in need, why are you asking for help on CraigsList?" Obviously coming here wasn't their first choice. If you want to help them without giving them anything, point them in the direction of a support program or something.

You typically see an uptick in these types of ads between Thanksgiving and Christmas. While I'm well aware most of these ads are either fake or outdated, I now want to speak directly to those who are pregnant and have either posted a legit ad or are thinking of posting an ad asking for help: More than likely you're wasting your time.

Due to the number of scam and fake ads, the chances of anyone taking your ad at face value is slim to none. Even if someone does believe your story, there is the very real possability you could be set up to get hurt really bad.

If you insist on posting an ad anyway, here's some friendly advice:

- If someone agrees to give you money, baby clothes/furniture, food or whatever do the exchange in a public place. If they insist on doing the exchange at your house or theirs, I'd be wary if I were you and at the very least bring someone with you.
- No need to write a long story. Just keep it short and to the point.
- Going with the above: Don't give too much personal info away in your ad. You don't want to make it too easy for someone with bad intentions to find you.
- Don't post an ad expecting help to come pouring in right away. More often than not--and in part because of the area--you probably won't get alot of serious offers of help.
- Include at least two pics: One with your belly (if you're showing) and one before you became pregnant. That way folks will know you're a real person.
- If you are looking for work, make this clear in your ad. Also list any past work experience you may have and how far along you are so employers know how long they will have you.
- If you are looking for housing, make this clear in your ad. List what type of housing you're looking for (room,
apartment, etc.) and for how long. If you're able to pay rent, mention this as well.
- Most importantly: Make it crystal clear in your ad you're not looking to do anything sexual for money. It won't stop some from trying but it will help.

...I hope someone finds this ad useful.

If any pregnant women out there would like someone to talk or vent to, feel free to contact me.
  • do NOT contact me with unsolicited services or offers

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